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Old 12-14-07, 10:45 AM
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Default Hello-came over from The Due in April-June Board

Unfortunately last monday I went to the doctor for a routine ultrasound, i was supposed to be 19 weeks along, baby only measured 15.4 weeks and there was no heart beat.. Devastation obviously hit me.. This was my 3rd pregnancy, I already have 2 children, girl and boy ages 4 & 5.. This is the first time this is happend, and after 2 healthy pregnancy you wonder why it happend, and why after that 12 week mark, I am hoping to find answers but i maybe never know.. I had to be induced and deliver him naturally. We got to hold him, we named his Tyler Joseph, we got to spend time with him, and we got some memoires of him like pictures...its just been so sad, and i know we want to have another baby but all that will be on my mind is hoping it doesnt happen again. Any feedback or thoughts? I feel that talking to people who have had this happen is easier for me to beable to talk about it.
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Old 12-14-07, 11:33 AM
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I am SO incredibly sorry to hear about your loss! I know that nothing can take away that pain, but being here on this board will hopefully give you some support that can at least help! These women are great!!! I"m pretty new to the TTC game and have already lost one pregnancy (although it was early--7 weeks). I know what you mean about being scared it will happen again.

I attended a support group for miscarriage and loss at my local hospital and many of the women have experienced what you have...a loss after the 12-week point. Maybe you could look into some groups at hospitals around you? I just always find other people who can relate to me such a support and comfort.

Again, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You WILL get through this, but there is no need to do it alone. Lean on the people around you and definitely us here!!!!
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Old 12-14-07, 11:53 AM
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Thinking of you and your family.
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Old 12-14-07, 11:55 AM
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i am so so so sorry for your loss

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Old 12-14-07, 12:10 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss.
I had two healthy daughters and inexplicably lost my next 4 pregnancies.
So I can sympathize with not understanding how things could go from just fine to completely messed up. :

I agree that talking and finding common ground with others in your situation will certainly help. We'll be here whever you need to vent, cry, ask questions, or ramble endlessly.
I'd be lost with TBC so I know how beneficial this community can be when you're hurting.

Additionally, I agree that seeking face-to-face support is important. If you belong to a church, check there first and see if you can find support within that family. I started a miscarriage ministry at my church after my first loss, not knowing I'd have three subsequent losses. It's awful to experience a tragic loss and even more disappointing if you're doing it alone.

If you need anything, please PM me any time.

My deepest sympathies on the loss of your beautiful son. Rest well, sweet Tyler.
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