I didn't realize After a Loss Message Board

Payday1989 · 05-11-12, 12:49 AM

I didn't realize after a loss, how hard it is to get over. I know I wasn't very far along, but it has gotten to the best of me and I think part of it that he left soon after. It has other things to do with things in our lives and we decided to part, but it's still really hard because I wanted this baby so bad and I wanted Max to have a sister or brother to play with. My brother just had a daughter 5 weeks ago and Max loves her so much. But I think part of it has to do with my brother having one now too.

Dopey406 · 05-11-12, 12:45 PM

I've been there more times than I ever imagined and I know that pain. I will be thining of you and praying for your comfort and peace.

MrsS1stbaby · 05-11-12, 01:25 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss! It does get easier, but those first few weeks afterward were very hard on me too.

Payday1989 · 05-11-12, 11:24 PM

It has been about 3 weeks since it happened, but since we separated for now, it has been even harder on me because he hasn't been there to have a shoulder to cry on and I hadn't told any family I was pregnant cause I wanted to wait.

MrsS1stbaby · 05-13-12, 06:20 PM

Ugh...yes, I so no what you about not being able to confide in anyone. We also had not told anyone either, but the day I found out the bad news I did tell my parents and his. We did it strictly out of wanting to avoid any questions of "when you gonna have another?" and then I would bust out crying. And I had 1 friend that knew which did help. As time went by, we eventually told a few close friends about it. But the majority of our own family doesn't now- never really a good time to bring that sort of thing up. Do have any close friends or family member you could tell? I hope you can find someone or some way to keep your spirits up. ((hugs))