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Old 10-09-07, 07:16 PM
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Default Please help me try to deal with this

I thought I would come here because I don't know which board makes the most sense to write on. I just came from the dr b/c I had some spotting earlier today. I had a sonogram on Friday and we saw the heartbeat for the first time.

Well, today the Dr was concerned because my baby is growing, but my sac is not. She also said that the baby's heart rate was around 100 and that they like it to be around 120.
I am scheduled to go back on Thursday and get another sonogram to learn more, but from what I sensed, I'm really going back to see if there is even a heart beat then. Im devastated, angry, upset, scared, and sad.

I am writing for 2 reasons...has this happened to anyone (with the sac not growing)? If so, do you know if I should be preparing myself for a miscarriage (if you can even prepare for that?). The dr did say that this could be an "impending miscarriage".

Please help me...I am so upset and don't know where to turn.
Thank you for your support...I have a feeling I'm going to need a lot more of it as the weeks go on here.
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Old 10-09-07, 09:58 PM
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Oh my!! The first thing I want to say is not to give up hope. It won't be easy to wait until Thursday, but there could be other explanations.

I'm not one to say that "everything happens for a reason." So I will just send up a prayer for you, your baby and your DH that you can be a family together.

I had all the same emotions as I dealt with my losses both before they happened when we were "figuring it all out" and after.

Here's hoping you get a better reading on Thursday and your fears are put to rest!!

Let us know if you need us -- we are here!
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Thank you so much for your support...and for the support you always gave me on the TTC boards. I'm so sad and having a hard time dealing with this. With the small gestational sac and the low heartbeat, I just don't think it looks good. Because this is my first pregnancy, I've been nervous/worried the entire time and now I just feel like my feelings were true this entire time.

I can't imagine going on if this does end up being a miscarriage...going to work and trying to function when I am grieving.

She basically told me there is a 50/50 chance of survival for my baby. I am so sad...I don't know what to do.
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Old 10-09-07, 10:47 PM
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I wish I had the right words to calm your fears but those words escape me right now.

I've had three losses in the last 10 months and I thought for sure my heart would just rip out after each one.

HOWEVER---you have seen a heartbeat and that's something that my little angels never had----so DON'T give up hope!

Please know that I'll be thinking of you and if you need to talk, PM me for my number.
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Old 10-10-07, 08:51 AM
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Sorry you have to go through this! 3 of my misses ended after we saw the heart beat to. when The first 2 pg i had ended i thought i would never have babies but theres hope. I now got 3 girls. i think of it this way. Its best for that baby if there something wrong to happen now than later. Also my first daughter is so smart i belive each of the babies i lost befor her, Are in her. thats what makes her so smart 3 kids in one. I know its hard. i still got the U/S pictures from my first pg (girl). But keep up your hopes that it will be okay! We are here for you. Cry on us if you need to!
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