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dianelynn77 · 05-14-07, 10:35 AM

i am battling woith myself how and when to tell the women i work for that i am expecting!! First off, she has been trying for another baby since Ava was born. She had asked me if I would continue to watch her kids if she had another, and I said yes. She has been trying for a while now, and I know how i felt when i was trying with Ava, for other people to tell me they were, so I have to watch the approach of telling her.
Secondly, I do not expect her to allow me to take my 2 kids to work with me, so I am expecting her to find someone to take over for me. Do I wait till i am 12 weeks, and then if she lets me go then I need to find a job with benefits that I most likely will not be able to take Ava with me. Then i chance that i may be showing and it may be hard for me to get a new job.
Or,
do i tell her now, and give us both time to figure out whats best for everyone. we get along great, and she is really good to me, and i hate to leave her out and have it be a secret for what seems like a long time.??

what would you do?

TTUAlison · 05-14-07, 10:43 AM

Having never dealt with infertility, I have no idea when the right time is or what the right words should be. Good luck in making your decision and I hope you are able to find another job quickly and easily if it comes to that.

Erinn · 05-14-07, 12:27 PM

I'm not too sure about the timing -- even at 12 weeks you're giving her lots of time to find a replacement.

Having been through infertility you know how hard it will be to tell her. Think about the way you wanted to be told and even mention how difficult things were when you were trying to conceive Ava. I'm sure she will be happy that it was much easier for you this time. It's a hard situation. Good luck and let us know how it goes.