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Old 07-23-12, 05:18 PM
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It was interesting...but I have to admit that towards the end it started getting too "scientific" and my mind started wandering and I was only skimming the article, lol.

In my house, it is my husband that tallks a lot of talk, but has no action. It drives me crazy! I literally heard him threaten our daughter at least 3x, if not more, that he was going to go get a cart if she did not stay by us in the grocery store. I finally said, "How many chances is that?" and grabbed her hand, practically dragged her to the front of the store and placed her in a cart. I honestly think he is afraid of getting out-of-control or going over-board. I try VERY hard to not make any sort of threat that I don't think I can follow through with.

While I agree I want my kids to have responsibility and not behave liked spoiled brats, I think it has to be tailored to the age- a 3yr old baking cupcakes? Eh, no, don't think so. A 3 yr old putting away her own toys and putting clothes in her hamper? Yes!

On the flip side, I'm not so sure I want my kids to get jobs when they are teenagers and I would prefer they live with me or near me while in college. I am 31 years old and have been now working for a paycheck for longer than I have not and I don't want my kids to feel that way. They have plenty of time to be a adult; I want them to experience being young and free and to see things and places before they start chaining themselves to a 9-5, ya know?

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Both good points. I do agree that meaning what you say and following up is important. Not only it helps to make your point at the time but also teaches them about integrity. (But I also get parents who give in sometimes) I think I've had quite the practice saying no to my mother, and establishing boundaries so I feel I'm experienced, hee hee.

I was kinda wondering about that cupcake thing myself. I guess that was an extreme example to make the point.

And about the working and being an adult too early; I think earning a paycheck makes one learn what it takes to make money, importance of budgeting and saving. I think there are too many people well into adulthood that think the world (and their parents) owe them something and expect them to pick up the tab if their "adventures" go bad. I worked as a teenager but I wasn't really making a living. But starting from an early age, I knew that I had to pay for every luxury myself (designer jeans, latest albums, magazines etc). My parents only provided necessary and educational items, and the rest I had to work for. And I cherished all those things I bought.
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