Discipline.. - Page 3 Ages & Stages

MrsS1stbaby · 12-09-10, 02:17 PM

We are having a hard time with Kendall as well. She is so independent and just does NOT listen to us most of the time. We were using time out consistently fo things like hitting us, hitting the dog...but then she sort of grew out the hitting phase and time out seems to have gotten phased out as well. During Thanksgiving it was so hard b/c there was so many people around who don't know our rules or just thought they were innocently playing with her and she was "show off" mode all the time; she is easily distracted and it was VERY difficult to get her to listen, sit still at dinner and actually eat, etc.

I always said I wouldn't spank either, but unfortunately I have. I don't want to & I hate making her cry like that. But like Brandi said, it only hurts her pride for a minute and then she is over it. I get the most frustrated with her when she is stalling (which "Staller" is her one of her official nicknames now) and I am trying to get out the door, etc. Like trying to get her dressed and she won't stand up so I can pull her pants up, won't let me help her get her shoes on....oh my, I could on. She is just a straight up diva lately and I hoping it goes away by the time her sibling comes along!

momofthreeboyz · 12-09-10, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by rudolphia

Discipline is hard for us too because of Lukas's sensory issues. He melts down pretty hard whenever he hears something he doesn't want, so his personality is volatile. He also doesn't seem to get the concept of time-out. He seems to be getting better as he is better able to express himself with words, but we have a long road ahead of us. I pretty much just use no and try to redirect his attention. When all else fails, I just move him physically away from the activity or object and do my best to keep from being hit, kicked or head-butted in the process. I don't like physical punishment anyway, but spanking Lukas would just be cruel given his SID.

I'm hoping with the different therapies he'll be getting and then special-ed preschool starting when he turns 3, that we'll be able to get discipline under control. This is a tough age for discipline no matter what (I remember well from my experience with Marek), but Lukas is particularly difficult.

We are pretty much the same as you with grayson who as well has alot of sensory stuff.
For my older boys when they were younger I found time outs or sitting at the kitchen table worked great.

MrsS1stbaby · 12-10-10, 12:15 PM

Laura- after this discussion yesterday, I really made an effort with Kendall to not lose my cool & actually used a time out! I am def gonna have to keep this up and be consistent.

lauralkemp · 12-10-10, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsS1stbaby

Laura- after this discussion yesterday, I really made an effort with Kendall to not lose my cool & actually used a time out! I am def gonna have to keep this up and be consistent.

Yeah, I have been trying to be better tempered with Joseph too. The most challanging time is diaper changing. He hates it but he hasn't quite got the idea yet that he'd use is potty more I'd have to change him less. :P
We did a time out too and we have set ultimatiums and follow through better. Like if you don't stop we'll leave, you'll go to your room/bed. It works somewhat better because he is getting the idea that if he's bad he can't be with us. He really understood that.

amitrat · 12-11-10, 10:01 AM

With Kaitlyn, we use Time Out and we remove/redirect. She doesn't do TOO much right now and these seem to work.