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  • NicholeMatthew NicholeMatthew's Avatar 08-17-05 | 04:23 PM
  • I ask Kevin to do lots of stuff:

    like get me a diaper for Ashlyn, or pick up stuff (even if it isn't his), or help Ashlyn when they are playing.... get his own shoes and socks on, etc... Little stuff

    And DH keeps telling me it isn't Kevin's responsibility!? That is making me so mad. I know it isn't his responsibility (picking up his toys is) but it teaches him it is good to help others. That this world isn't just about you, it is about others and helping is a good thing. Kevin gets rewarded for it, so it isn't like it goes un noticed or anything.

    So am I right here? By asking Kevin to do these tiny things for me, that I'm teaching him responsibility and to help others?

    Oh the socks are because Kevin doesn't put them on perfectly straight... well neither do I, do you want to put my socks on for me???
  • two forgetful two forgetful's Avatar 08-17-05 | 05:35 PM
  • Wow that is hard! I think this is the age to teach them responsibility because when they get older they will do nothing given the chance. It is important to let them help out like set the table or fold towles. If they can do it you should ask them or let them. That is my thought.
  • skyqueen skyqueen's Avatar 08-17-05 | 06:13 PM
  • I think you're doing the right thing.

    I am trying so hard to teach my children to be caring and helpful people. For it to be automatic in their personalities...

    Sarah has a deep desire to be the 'helper'. It's just who she is. AND, it keeps her out of trouble.
    Ask most teachers of young ADHD children and you find the best way to work with those kids are to keep them close and as a 'helper' so they don't turn into the little crazy monsters they easily turn into without the proper directing.

    I also try to teach my kids to look at what others have (or don't have) and what they themselves have and try to share etc. If they see someone sitting alone, to go up to them and ask if they would like to play... stuff like that.

    Definately, a 4 year old is not too young to have responsibility.
  • Mellie Mellie's Avatar 08-18-05 | 09:17 AM
  • If they can, ask away. Helping out is not so much of a responsiblity as it is common courtesy and necessary in a family.