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raabta01 · 01-30-12, 03:29 PM

Our three kid’s birthdays are 2/13, 3/14, and 6/22. We moved into a new home about 2.5 years ago. This year we decided as a birthday present we were going to have each one of their rooms painted, with a little of their input to an extent.
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We had a painter come last week and give us an estimate and it was a little over what I had budgeted to spend per room.

So, my question is, is it ok to ask (family only) to contribute to this? Honestly we're probably at capacity as far as toys, etc. goes and we're pretty set for clothes. We were thinking of asking the family members that would regularly attend the birthday parties (grandparents, aunt/uncle) and would bring a gift to contribute to the "remodeling fund" in lieu of a gift. We would obviously make it very clear to the kids that this was a group effort, so it wouldn’t seem like we were taking all the credit!

Is this ok/not ok? If so is there best way to ask?

2babygirls · 01-30-12, 05:01 PM

I think its a great idea. My family would be willing to contribute to that.

My family is very informal though so gifts of cash are not frowned upon!

3Princes · 01-30-12, 08:47 PM

I like the idea. My mom would be totally on board with something like that. Maybe send a picture of their current rooms, and a cute little ditty about redecorating as a family gift, and ask them to contribute?

lauralkemp · 01-31-12, 12:04 AM

I think it would be fine. My mom and in-laws are always up for a gift that doesn't involve toys or shipping costs(other then a stamp).

savannah33 · 01-31-12, 09:12 AM

I think it would be fine also.