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Old 05-30-09, 02:12 PM
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Question "... out of relationship."

For those of you who have Dh's with kids from a previous marriage... (and anyone else who wants to chime in
 
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How do you refer to those children (let's assume the child in question IS NOT standing right there).

"my step son/daughter"
"my husbands son/daughter/child"
&/or
"my son/daughter"

'Cause see... if my Dh had a child before he met me... that's PROBABLY how I'd refer to the child when speaking of them to others... I'd THINK?!?!

One of my kids friends MOMS was talking to me the other day...
we were talking about her old car... and when she had her last child they had to buy a new one since all the kids didn't fit comfortably. And then she says (something like)
"And then when we had ________ on the weekends, he had to sit in the middle with his arms in front of him... he was so squished."
I said... "Oh, who's _______?" ('cause I knew that wasn't one of her kids)
She said
"Oh, he's my Dh's son from out of relationship."

I think I said... "Oh, I see." (I didn't really know what else to say.)

The way she said it led me to believe that the child was a product of an affair by her Dh. What do you think? And if not, wasn't that a WEIRD way to describe the situation??
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Old 05-30-09, 02:20 PM
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I've never heard the term "out of relationship."

I call DH's sons DH's sons. Mostly cuz the oldest is only 9 yrs younger than me and when I was younger I'd get funny looks if I called them MY sons.

We see his Ex and her mom at family events and everybody is civil. Our girls call his Ex wife and his Ex MIL their Ex-Mom and Ex-Grandma.
 
Rached decided on those terms and they stuck.

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Old 05-30-09, 02:21 PM
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The way she said it led me to believe that the child was a product of an affair by her Dh. What do you think? And if not, wasn't that a WEIRD way to describe the situation??
And yes I think that is a wierd way to describe it. Maybe it was from an affair?
 
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Old 05-30-09, 02:43 PM
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Yeah, it kind of sounds like he had an affair to me.
 

I don't like the use of "half brother or sister". I don't know why, maybe because there's no such thing as half a person, I guess. LOL
dd Katie refers to my dh as "step dad" but he referrs to her as "my daughter".
 

I've never heard the term "out of relationship".
 
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I have never heard that term & yes, it sounds strange to me. I have 2 older siblings that are "half" but I always called them my bro & sis growing up, but I am not really sure what my dad referred to them as. They are his step-kids, but I really can't recall what he called them. ??
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