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Old 09-13-07, 11:15 AM
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Hello,
I have a beautiful FiancÚ who is 11 weeks pregnant today. She already has a great 18 month old daughter that I have called my own since she was around 9 month's old. For a while we've known we wanted a child together and that we wanted to get married, we just weren't real particular in which order! Well, I made things official this last weekend and popped the big question (she said yes!).

My question is this; should we go ahead and do a quick "elope" type wedding and then have a more formal ceremony after the baby is born or should we just postpone everything until after the birth. Insurance and $ wise we are ok for the pregnancy. It just seems that a lot of the more old fashioned people in both or our families are pushing that we get married ASAP so that the baby isn't "illegitimate" We've been kind of thinking that everything's been so unconventional so far, why change things now!

Please help!
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Old 09-13-07, 11:18 AM
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Can't tell you what to do.. it's all up to you. But.. if I were in that situation.. I'd get married before baby came.. and then have a larger ceremony later..
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Old 09-13-07, 12:28 PM
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I agree with Beth. But honestly it is a very personal decision and I wish you the best of luck. Only you can truely know what is right for your particular situation.
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Old 09-13-07, 12:49 PM
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I'm kind of thinking along the same lines as far as something quick and then the larger ceremony later. Any particular reasons for that choice??
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Old 09-13-07, 12:55 PM
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I'm of the old fashioned mindset that people should get married.. then live together and then have babies.. so if I happen to fall pg before the marriage thing then I would want to be married before baby arrives.
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