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Old 03-13-08, 12:33 AM
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Default Is there a way..

to get your baby to sleep without making them cry it out? Sigh

Things that so far don't work:

sitting in the room
putting them in your bed (that turns into a party)

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Old 03-13-08, 12:50 AM
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not usually.

If laying down with them doesn't work (and it didn't for me either)
than it's the controlled crying.

Lay them down, rub their back, play the quiet music.
then leave. Let them cry for a few minutes (5-10) and then go back in, lay them down, rub their back, make the 'shhh shhh shhh" sound... then leave.
wait 5-10 minutes after they cry and then go back in... repeat until they go to bed.

I SWEAR that the max you'll have to do that is 10 days. usually it's many less.
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Old 03-13-08, 01:06 AM
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I hate to say it, but I honestly believe it depends on the kid. Some kids have to cry it out to "get it". My older kid is one of those kids. I tried it several times when he was younger and chickened out each time, or he'd get sick and I didn't think it was fair to keep going. We had around 6 aborted attempts at the cry-it-out process.

Finally I bit the bullet and stuck with it when he was 9 months old. I did it while we were vacationing in California and staying with my sister for 10 days. My sister gave me moral support so I could stick it out. She has two kids (22 and 17) and has a very gentle parenting style, so I knew if she didn't have a problem with the process, it wasn't cruel. Within 5 days, Marek had settled into his bedtime routine and could comfort himself back to sleep if he awakened during the night.

I recommend Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth. I had to modify his plan for Marek, but the plan works in general.
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Old 03-13-08, 10:09 AM
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My views on CIO are better discussed in Unplugged. But I do want to encourage you to stick to your instinct not to have your LO cry it out! There are several things to do:

Plenty of daytime excersise
Daily sunshine, if possible
Constant bedtime routine
Wear your baby during the day
Get a co-sleeper - the ArmsReach brand was worth every penny.
White noise is helpful for some children

Dr. Sears has great advice:

And this book explains sleep habits and wonderful ways to encourage your child to sleep better:
Sweet Dreams by Paul M. Fleiss, M.D., M.P.H., F.A.A.P.
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Old 03-13-08, 10:15 AM
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You can also try putting a cd player in the room and playing soft music. I had one that you could NOT let cio. She would have screamed all night and I am not kidding and it wasn't just crying it was SCREAMING like she was being murdered. It was awful. But it also helped if I was just in the room so we still don't know what was wrong with her.

Karen did give some good advice. Let them cry, go in every so often until they stop. It somehow makes them feel better because they can rest but know that you are there if they really do need you. Good luck and hope something starts to work soon
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