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Old 04-07-10, 03:50 PM
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Would you allow your children to go visit a family member who wouldn't speak to you?

I want to tell dh my thoughts on this before he calls his dad tomorrow. I'm guessing that they're going to send MIL to pick up the kids, take them to their house, and also to drop them off afterward.

I have mixed feelings about it. On one hand, these are their only "active" grandparents and we have a super-small family. They do love the kids and the kids love them too. I would hate to keep them away from them.

On the other hand, I refuse to act like the ILs and I are some sort of dysfunctional divorced couple. I don't want the kids to have any sense that I'm not welcome, or feel uncomfortable in any way.

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Old 04-07-10, 04:04 PM
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That's a tough one, but if the children have a good relationship with them and enjoy seeing them, I'd let them go.
 
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My DH and father didnt speak for about 4 years, but I still took the girls over my parents house. He didnt want to deny him to see his granddaughters over a fight they had.
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I would let them go.

When I was younger, my parents had a falling out with my grandparents (mom's parents) and wouldn't let us near them. They lived next door! It was so hard on us. I'll never forget that.
 
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I think it would be different if we'd had a "fight," and neither of us would apologize. Then I'd be closer to 100% in favor of letting them go. He's just basically said for no real reason that I'm no longer welcome in their home and he's never coming over here again.
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