I don't care if I piss her off or not. She already doesn't like me so no hurt feelings there. Her real Mom feels there is a problem to but only gets her every other w/e so she's no help. DSD does NOT suck a paci over there. Anyways I think the real problem lies with DH not stand up to MIL. He lets her do what she wants. I have already told him on DS I am the parent not MIL!!!! Thaks guys this was some great advice!!!!