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Old 10-28-04, 05:17 PM
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Default Positive Thinking vs False Hope

How do you handle this fine line? When my dr. did my most recent IUI he was so positive about the whole thing that he just kept saying he "knows" it's going to work this time. I found this really helped me keep my spirits up, but when I thought about it more it made me feel like he was possibly being TOO positive & actually giving me false hope. How do you stay positive without going overboard?
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Old 10-28-04, 06:31 PM
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Whoever can answer this --- I'll be amazed.

Cycle buddy, I'm in the same boat w/ the same thinking. I had a great cycle and they were so positive. BOB hasn't found me yet...well Ishould say until this morning. My BOB was teh pessimistic BOB saying I'm crampy so I must be getting AF instead of BOB saying I'm crampy so it must be implantation.

So I would kill for some positive throughts right now. I'm not negative really, just sick and tired of TTC and BFNs.

Anyway back to you...staying positive is good. And hopefully you won't be disasppointed. IF that time does come, come back here and we'll give you a pep talk.

You'd think this would be an exact science...getting close by as my RE can only get you so far...Mother Nature has the final say. Anyway I hope next week is full of pink lines....

Edited to add...Positive thinking and resolve is half the battle IMO. So Stay positive!!!

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Old 10-28-04, 06:51 PM
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At least for me, I can tell when the positivity is genuine or not, and that's important to me. My OB is one of the most genuine and caring people I know, and every time he boosted me up, I believed him and drew strength from it.

My RE, on the other hand, needs to go back to bedside manner/human relations training. He's a great technician and medical doctor, but his interpersonal skills come off so rehearsed and fake I cringe whenever we speak.

I'm a reserved, realistic person, so I don't bubble over with enthusiasm. Do what feels right to keep your spirits up, acknowledge your pessimistic moments, and remember what you're fighting for.
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Old 10-28-04, 09:10 PM
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I always tried to stay as postive as possible and never believed that I could be TOO helped keep my spirits up for sure during the 2WW and yes it made the BFN's over 5 years much harder at times but I was very determined...HANG IN THERE!

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Dumb question, can I ask what "BOB" is? Sorry, can't figure it out.
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