Work trouble January 2013 Birth Club Message Board

violet84 · 08-05-12, 07:49 AM

I work for a terrible company but I need to stay there until after the baby is born so I can get my maternity leave. Last week I lost my temper with a coworker (long story, but hormones played a major part) basically he made a rule but told no one until my boss chewed me out. My other coworker who is not from this country said she hates my baby and wants to kill it (she herself has 6). I have had to go to the bathroom and no one wants to cover me when I have to go and make me feel guilty for going so I've almost wet myself. My boss is trying to guilt me into only taking 1 month of maternity leave (this is my first baby) saying I'm putting a lot of pressure on the company even though I told her at 5 weeks when my due date is. I'm freaking out and stressing and it's not good for the baby I know. Just wanted to vent, I haven't told my husband much of this because I don't want to make him feel bad for not making enough for me to stay home.

MrsS1stbaby · 08-05-12, 10:17 AM

Oh, my that sounds horrible! Can you go to HR about any of this? I know you don't want to rock the boat....what about changing to a new position or team?

Are there any temp jobs that you could work? I work with a girl who started at my job pregnant as a temp. After her 90 days they hired her on as permanent and then while she was on maternity leave we had a huge layoff and even though she a "new" employee she was spared! And even I started working where I am now pregnant, so I had no insurance until after my 90 days, but no one gave me any grief about it or the 8 weeks I took off. And this December will be my 5th year. So there are places out there that will work with you. I know it's scary, but maybe you could find something. If not, I hope things get better at your current place.

violet84 · 08-05-12, 05:21 PM

The trouble is that the some of the drama is coming from a woman who is the HR lady's daughter! I had planned to take my maternity leave and then look for a new job the day I get home from the hospital. I just want to make a clean break and be rid of them. My company has broken so many laws since I've worked there and I've been there 5 years. I just hate it, it makes my life miserable. The guy I snapped on is having an elicit relationship with one of his employees and gets inappropriate in the hallway in front of my clients. Well, if they don't fire me for finally speaking up (they are mad I'm threatening to turn them in for owing $40,000+ to my clients) I have been silent for so long but it's all coming out, these pregnancy hormones are providing the guts, I plan to just stick it out another few months. If I do get fired one of my Grad School companions says I could get free health insurance through the state and luckily my husband and I have save up a chunk of money to live very frugal on. I just feel like screaming.