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The wicked witch is coming to town.

The wicked witch is coming to town.

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  • Mrs.Emily Mrs.Emily's Avatar 07-31-08 | 05:59 PM
  • My MIL has not spoken with us since last Monday's blowout about me and the baby. Today (at 3 pm) she sends DH a text message that says "I'm picking up Em from the aiport at 2 tomorrow and then heading your way for a wedding and a visit, hope I can see you, Love Mom" (Em is DH's step sister).

    Okay WTF?! Is she Bipolar?! Does she not even remember last weeks episode?! Besides that does she know how to make plans more than 24 hours in advance?! (She always waits until last minute to tell us she's coming to twon which is why we don't always get to see her. I'm really peciluar about keeping plans that i have already made with people, I find it very rude to cancel plans last minute, so I have a problem with canceling my plans just b/c she's coming)
    Okay so DH is working 24 hours tomorrow, taking a class on Saturday (that we have already paid for), and my sister's house warming party is Saturday night, and I work Sunday 7a-3p. So I'm free saturDAY and dh is free sunday, and neither of us wants to be with her alone.
    So what do I do and what do I say, I know no matter what we will see her, I'll probably end up going to my sister's late on Saturday.
     
  • Dopey406 Dopey406's Avatar 07-31-08 | 06:06 PM

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    How disrespectful.
     


    If it were me, I'd let her know how I feel. BUT--that's my personality. And it's gotten me good results in the past so I keep trying it until it burns me.
     


    Good luck!!!
     
    I hope it goes well and she comes to her senses enough to apologize!!
  • amitrat amitrat's Avatar 07-31-08 | 06:17 PM
  • ouch - that puts you guys inbetween a rock and a hard place. I agree with Deanna - you guys need to have a good talking with her - especially DH.

    My MIL and are are closer than I am with my own mother now, but in the beginning, we did not get along - her first impression of me was a freshman who drank to much. She one day made a comment that I wasn't supposed to her about me - wasn't true, and DH needed to set her straight - from me it wouldn't have worked. That was 14 years ago.

    I hope all goes well, and as everyone else said in the past, don't let her stress you out.
  • Mrs.Emily Mrs.Emily's Avatar 07-31-08 | 06:18 PM
  • Knowing her I seriously doubt she will apologize. And I have the opposite personality. I HATE HATE HATE confrontation. Oh well, I guess we'll just see how it all goes.
  • Dopey406 Dopey406's Avatar 08-01-08 | 10:10 AM
  • Really, though, the last thing you want to do is let it slide because that's almost like condoning her behavior.
     
    If you don't tell it like it is NOW, it'll be even harder when Baby comes.
     


    I'd have a conversation with her tell her that you were hurt that she was so disrespectful and that in order to move forward, she needs to be more mindful of the words she uses.

    Of course, I'd probably say it A LOT differently than that.