I would say the answer to your question is yes, but not in a way that I am able to truly explain. I certainly have had thoughts about the economy, the college campus and school shootings, the health ailments that run in my family that I may or may not pass on, whether or not I will be a good mother or if
is ready to be a father. Someone once told me the reason they decided to have a child when they did was b/c they realized they were waiting until they were financially stable.....and that if
she kept waiting, she would probably never be financially stable. I always get asked if
I am excited and I never know what to say...of course I am. But I am also nervous and apprehensive. I actually told someone a few weeks ago that you make the decision to get pg
, and then you do and it hits you that there is no turning back. This child will depend on you 24/7; so much different than my dog.
I will be 27 in May and have been married for 4.5 years. We bought our 1st house after 1 year of marriage. Then we got a dog and it was amazing to watch our love grow for an animal that we adopted as if
it was our own child. We often said, "Wow, can you imagine what it must be like with a kid?" It was just something inside that gave me the courage to think that me and my husband were ready for next adventure. Over the years, we have always discussed our own childhoods and what we would do differently if
we ever had kids. If
you are even thinking about having children, you should discuss EVERYTHING with your partner. There so many different styles of parenting and decisions to make that if
you don't discuss them now, it will cause friction in the future. (Such as: Are going to spank or use other forms of discipline? Religion? Homeschool, private school, public school? Daycare, nanny, or stay at home parent? Sports, arts, music...what's important to you?) If
your apprehensive about your husband not pulling his weight when that time comes, it's something you should address now. With him and yourself; will you be prepared to shoulder the responsibility, will you be resentful to him even though you had a feeling how it would turn out, or even if
you could afford help if
you didn't think it would come from him? Every mother, every father, and how every couple approaches this is different. Pregnancy happens to many unexpectedly and they only have 9-10 months to think about all these things and more. But, most all of the women I have encountered wouldn't change it for the world. They all say, "Being a mother is the best thing that ever happened to them." I'll let you know in about 5 months if
I will be saying the same thing. I have been lucky that my pg
has been pretty easy.
Good luck with all the discussions on the road ahead!