Our 18 month old daughter has come to believe everything in our house is HERS! She's ok with family but during play dates she won't tolerate the other child playing with ANYTHING, even if it's the same thing she already has!

Any tips on getting her to understand the concept of sharing without making it seem like I'm favoring the guest over my daughter??

Your daughter is completely normal
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Young children, and especially toddlers, don't have the ability to take someone else's perspective, so she doesn't understand that someone else wants the toy as much as she does. She won't feel as if you're favoring the other child either, she'll just be focused on the toy.

Children don't really understand sharing until about age 3, and it doesn't come easily until they are older than that. If your daughter is an only child or has limited experience with other children, seeing other people with her toys can cause some anxiety! Make sure there are plenty of toys to go around, and be calm and understanding when she gets upset. Help her learn the language of sharing and resolving conflicts by saying to her " You would really like to play with that toy. Susie is playing with it now. You can have it when she's finished". Redirect her attention to something else and let her know her feelings are acceptable through your demeanor.

It will take time but she'll get it.
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yup. Sharing is not something that children are born knowing.. it's something learned just like tying shoes.
Just practice sharing at home on your own constantly and the concept will eventually start to sink in.

Update:

I took Kaydence to our church for Sunday school. Apparently she did fine. I think the main issue is she see's everything at our house at hers. She is getting better though, except with certain dolls of hers, but I'm not concerned over that.

I have started a "timer" I say you get this toy for 4 minutes then you need to let so and so play with it. I also do it with doing a certain activity that only one kid can do at a time.......it seems to be working so far.....