Skip to main content
Baby Corner logo

Coping with Holidays

Reply Post New Topic

  • baby hungry 01-11-07 | 12:48 AM
  • I know sometimes Christmas can be hard for those who are struggling with infertility. I myself had a nice few cries on the days leading up to Christmas.

    I was searching the internet and found some suggestions for Mother's, and Father's day. I thought I would share.

    Coping with Mother's Day and Father's Day
    It can be particularly difficult to face the many emotional issues raised by infertility at a time when everyone is celebrating motherhood and fatherhood. RESOLVE urges men, women and couples who are experiencing infertility to plan ahead for Mother's Day and Father's Day, acknowledge their feelings and prepare themselves emotionally to handle questions and comments from family and friends.

    "RESOLVE suggests the following to help with Mother's Day and Father's Day:

    Take a Proactive Stance
    Think ahead about the day and plan a strategy in advance. Don't wait until the holiday is upon you to make plans.

    Focus on Your Parents/Grandparents or Special Parental Figure
    Make this a special time for them. If a family gathering is planned and it will be pleasant for you, go and enjoy. But, if lots of children or pregnant relatives will be present, and you know this will be upsetting, consider other possibilities. You might plan to see your mother/father at another time during the weekend.

    Recognize Potential Painful Situations
    Restaurants, for example, may be a source of discomfort. They may ask if you are a mother or a father in order to give you a complimentary item. Be prepared for this question so you are not taken off-guard.

    Speak to Your Minister or Rabbi
    Before a religious service, talk with your clergyperson (or write a letter) and educate him/her about the experience of infertility. Perhaps he/she would be willing to say a prayer or offer words of support for those struggling with this crisis.

    Plan an Enjoyable Day Together
    It is important to work as a couple during these difficult days. Consider tuning out the holiday emphasis entirely and make it an opportunity for a fun day together plan a day outdoors to go hiking, bicycling, or walking on a beach. See that movie you've wanted to see or create a special meal.

    For more information:
    Call RESOLVE's National HelpLine @ 888-623-0744.
    Whenever you feel overwhelmed by the holidays, whenever you need someone to talk to, our peer counselors will be happy to listen and to offer RESOLVE resources. Give us a call. You are not alone!

    Letters to Clergy

    Mother's and Father's Day 2003 chat transcript "
  • mac71 mac71's Avatar 01-11-07 | 06:23 AM
  • Thanks Susanne

    Personally stuff like doesn't get to me except for xmas 2005. I was very upset xmas morning but that was the first and last time. I just figure I can't change things - crying or getting upset won't get me what I want but I suppose its taken me a long time to feel this way.
  • Tracey and Neil Tracey and Neil's Avatar 01-11-07 | 01:54 PM
  • This is the 1st Christmas and New year that I haven't cried, I'm not sure if it was because I was ill or because I was too busy to get upset, or both. I also got Neil to wrap all the childrens presents this year, as this is almost always the tear-trigger for me.

    Mothers Day, now that's a different matter - I'll just stay in bed!!!

Latest Articles

Pregnant Woman's Guide to The Zika Virus
Get the latest information about the zika virus during pregnancy including how to protect your unborn baby or infant, signs and symptoms, complications, and prevention.

Fetal Development Video
Video showing how a fetus developed during the 40 weeks of pregnancy. Fetal Development Video

Adventure Vacations with Your New Family Are Possible
If you spent time as a couple exploring vast areas of the world, that doesn't have to end just because you have a new baby. Here are 6 tips to make your vacations fun for the whole family. Plus, vacation ideas to help you get started.

The "Mozart" Effect: How Music Helps Your Baby's Development
Can your baby really be smarter if your listen to Mozart, or other classical music, during pregnancy?

What to Expect Postpartum: Your Period
The postpartum period brings many changes to a woman's body. Learn what to expect with your period including when it will return and warning signs to watch out for.

July 2018 Baby Photo Contest Winner

July 2018 2017 Baby Photo Contest Winner
Congratulations Willow!!