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Old 10-17-06, 07:47 PM
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Default I'm having a pity party, and you're invited!...

... got a call a few hours ago from Neil's Brother to say that they have unexpectedly just given birth to #4. She was 31 only at weeks, but she had gestational diabetes (she's clinically obese) and also smoked through her whole pregnancy, so we're guessing this is why her waters broke so early.

It's a little girl they've called Alyx Carolyn, they're both versions of family names in Neil's family.

I don't know if any of you remember but this is the same couple that used a name for child #2 that they knew we'd picked out when we started TTC (before they even met), so ironically we'd been thinking about Alex as a name instead as it was Neil's Granddad's name, but oh well. Back to the drawing board.

What upsets me most is that this is a child that Neil's Brother didn't want, but she went ahead and planned anyway. This is the woman who has never worked but still puts all 3 of her children into Day Care because she 'can't cope' with her children, and when they are in day care she goes back to bed.
This is also the same woman who would wait for Neil's Brother to come home and as soon as he got in from work she would go to bed. And also the same woman who then later told him that he'd have to stop working (in a job he was doing really well at), because she couldn't cope with the kids.
Yet despite all this she planned to have another child.

Neil and I love our family, but we just find it so hard to feel happy for this latest arrival. We find it hard to understand why someone who can't cope with the children she has, would want to bring another child into the world.

But we will be expected to visit, and hold, and coo over, and seem happy for this new arrival, when all we honestly feel is anger and sadness.

So, we now have 9 nieces and nephews and all but 2 of them were born after we started TTCing.

So! You wanna come to my pity party, then sure come along, just tell me if you plan to bring anything... bottle of wine, nibbles, Diazepam, Prozac etc, so that I don't double up!
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Old 10-17-06, 07:51 PM
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Old 10-17-06, 08:02 PM
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I'm sorry..
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Old 10-17-06, 08:04 PM
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Would a big bottle of Rum help...
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Old 10-17-06, 08:30 PM
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I'm so sorry Tracey. SIL sounds like a jerk! (or
as the Brits say)
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