Sorry to use this thread to complain, but I need to vent. My husband is a job hopper he kept his last job for two weeks and then lost it and was unemployed for over a month. He just found out on friday that he got the last job he interviewed for so he finds out when he starts tomorrow, but who knows how long he'll keep this one. We just finished moving out of our house last week and moving in with HIS parents because we got evicted due to the no money and no job problem. I work as a photographer both independently and for another studio, but I can't seem to make enough on my own. So now, we're living with his parents and his brother who is two years younger than him and just moved home because his finance and he broke up, so its a full house. I just feel really guilty because I work a lot and don't get to see my little girl much. Now daddy is going back to work also so she'll be back with the baby sitter. His parents are obsessed with livie and enjoy having her all the time, but the thing is we don't get to do much with her, and they always want to take her with them whenever they go anywhere or when they are home, the tend to hog her and do all her feedings and changings. I am extremely grateful they are letting us stay with them, but I feel like they are overstepping their bounds and i don't know how to address it. To make matters worse, they don't listen to my husband at all because of his history with jobs and the fact that he will tell them what they want to hear so he doesn't need to hear a lecture, in other words he lies to them. I just really want to spend more time with my baby but I feel like I don't get to because they want her all the time. HELP!

maybe you can plan one day a week of mother daughter time! just tell your dh and in laws that you have plans to spend the day with her and have some time with just the two of you or even your dh can hang out to. and if they still get too involved maybe you can go to a park or mall or somewhere away from the others so they cant jump in and take over.

And you can do it once a week or more so that you have some bonding time with her.

I know how it is having to live with family. Good luck and I hope things get better soon.

thanks imagine. Those are some pretty good ideas...they just drive me up a wall and basically we're stuck here til it warms up again cause I am not doing the whole moving thing when it's cold. I hate having to schedule time with my own daughter...it sucks but at least we have a place to stay and we have people who love both us and her even if it seems way to much at times.

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I think scheduling time is a good idea as well. I know it sucks to schedule time with your own child, but it also gives them a schedule of free time - they know that you and your daughter and your husband (if he's not working) will be out and about, so they can plan to do something as well.
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I think that you need to talk to them and nicely let them know that it's your daughter. You are making sacrifices by working and you should be able to spend time with her. Right now is the best time to spend with your baby. I also work and sometimes I bring my baby to work. It's a handful but at least I can spend time with him and watch him grow, and that's what you are missing out. Let them know how you feel and they should understand, if you don't speak up, they will never know.