Actually, I'm beyond irritated. Aislinn attends a highly-rated (we have a quality rating system here) family child care home near my office, that was recommended by 2 of my colleagues. Early on, I had to have a dicussion with her teacher about how she spoke to both me and Aislinn. I felt I was being pushed out the door in the morning, she tried to tell me what I could do with Aislinn at drop-off or pick-up (basically implying that I shouldn't help her with anything) and that it was important that Aislinn's feelings be acknowledged if she happened to have a hard time separating in the morning. I wrote her a note expressing my feelings; we talked about it and I thought we had reached an understanding and moved past it.

Well, this morning, she opened the door for us, said good monring and then continued on a phone call. Aislinn had to use the bathroom and asked me to stay. She used the toilet, washed her hands and I got her a paper towel. By this time, her teacher had finished her phone call and had come to the bathroom door, telling me "NO, Mommy, she can do it herself." I looked at her and said "I KNOW she can do it herself." She knew I was pi$$ed, and said "I'm sorry, but she really can do it by herself, and I would like her to continue," as if me getting a paper towel for her would derail her independence for the day. My daughter does not have issues with independence. I was already angry by this point, and then the teacher said "Go ahead and tell me what you're going to tell me, so you dont have to write your letter."
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I said I wouldn't be writing another letter because we've already had this discussion. I said goodbye to Aislinn and wished them a nice day.

As someone who has been a preschool teacher, director and now a trainer, I cannot IMAGINE reprimanding one of my parents, let alone for something so innocuous, and in front of the child!!! She should have been off the phone to supervise. I already have a spot for Aislinn beginning in early June at a center, but I think I'll be pulling her out a little earlier than I'd planned. Aislinn has been happy there and overall I have been too, but I can no longer tolerate being treated so disrespectfully. She and I clearly have different beliefs about respecting the parent-child relationship and the relationship that she and I have to maintain. The teacher has the right and responsibility to let people know how she wants things to be in her classroom, but seriously, over a paper towel?

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Monique, that is uncalled for. She has no right to talk to you like that especially in front of Aislinn.
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The part about the letter is way over the line and very unprofessional. She also should NOT have been on the phone when she is supposed to be caring for children.
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Can you talk to the director of the center about her?


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That is very uncalled for and if it had been me I probably would have told her what I wanted and then taken my child with me never to return again!!!! I would look in to moving her sooner if you can
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That was out of line. No matter what, Aislinn is your child and you have a better idea of her independence than this woman does (obviously, since she thought that your getting Aislinn a paper towel was going to cause problems
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).

And to make a snarky comment about not writing another letter - that's just childish.

Thanks, ladies. The teacher is the owner/operator of her home center, so she is it. What floors me is that she behaves this way with me when I KNOW exactly what she should and should not be doing because my agency is part of the quality rating system she participates in. I teach the classes that these teachers, etc have to take! I certainly don't expect special treatment, but one would think she would be extra careful considering my position. Oh, well. SHe'll get her notice on Monday.