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Mommy Whisperer

Linda Miles, Ph.D |19, April 2006


Using simple techniques Moms can learn how easily they can whisper relaxing phrases to their babies during pregnancy, delivery, and postpartum. Dr. Linda Miles, inspires and instructs Moms, using a practical, proven effective method, which calms both the child and Mom, while building a stronger emotional and physical bond between the two. And Dads can join in, too.

When Moms are anxious, babies feel that anxiety. Research has shown that a stressed Mom creates a stressed baby, causing the fetus' heart to beat faster. When levels of stress hormones are too high for extended periods of time, both Mom and the baby's mental and physical health suffer.

In 1973 Dr. Miles used natural childbirth with her son, Christopher Brett. She found Lamaze helpful, but after that pregnancy she wanted an even more stress free birth. She wanted less stress for both her and her child. Quickly, she realized the tremendous benefit listening with headphones to individually recorded, soothing music with a familiar voice would have. Here was a simple way to remind her to relax. When she was a bundle of nerves, there was an easy comfort with just the flip of a switch. Then, she could share, gently whispering, what she heard with her baby. To her surprise the relaxation practice brought deep calm not only to her, but to baby Brett, too.

With her initial personal success as a Mommy Whisperer, Dr.
Miles studied and has used these relaxation techniques successfully for over 30 years with her clients and friends.
After the stress of the pregnancy with her first child, a client of Dr. Miles used the Mommy Whisperer technique for her second child with entirely different results. She was calm throughout the experience, with less stress on her. Therefore, there was less stress on her child. She had a peaceful pregnancy and delivery. Because Mommy Whisperer's reduce stress on themselves and their child, they can enhance the mother-child bond after the baby is born.

Using simple relaxation strategies, parents actually affect the physical structure of the baby's developing brain. The patterns we learn, affect how we cope with stress and with life.

While soothing her baby, Mom is actually teaching her child to self-soothe. When you soothe your baby with whispers, they may develop a pattern of self-soothing that works under stress. And the opposite happens too. If Mom or anyone is loud and reactive under stress, the child develops that pattern and responds that way to stress. The brain loves the familiar, so how we train our children, becomes their coping strategy. So, whisper to your child, "I am so happy you are here." "I love you so much." "You are so beautiful." "Everything is okay." This gives them safety to learn and explore.

Copyright 2005 Linda Miles Ph.D

Dr. Linda Miles is an expert with a Doctorate in Counseling Psychology, and has worked in the mental health field for over thirty years. She co-authored an award-winning book, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and created on CD, Train Your Brain: For a Peaceful Pregnancy & Delivery.

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