Correcting Toddler Behavior - Biting, Hitting, & Throwing Discussion

I disagree that the biter should be delt with first. the victim should be delt with first. this will be a blow to the bitter. espesially if the biter is your own child. they may get more frustrated when you do not show them the attention they expected, but that is life. i will not reward you with my attention for that behavior. once i have made sure that the victim is ok then i go back to the biter who is totally baffled at what just happened, let them know that this behavior is unacceptable. if this behavior continues they will be removed from the situation. no if and's or buts and follow through! if you say you are going to do something do it!

A child needs discipline and rules. a toddler shouldn't be hitting biting or telling a parent no. a parent should say no to a child as early as 4 months, children can tell difference in tones of voices. i have a two, almost three, year old and she knows if she behaves badly a consequence will take place. kids know what they can get away with, dnt b fooled! this article enables bad behavior

My 2 1/2 years old son throws things when he gets upset or when he does not get his way. what can i do to correct this issues?

My 3 yr old has recently started nursery and in his first week he kept hitting other children his teacher has said that he has calmed right down with only a few minor incidents but there is one child that he keeps hitting and grabbing i dont undersatnd why he has a problem with this one girl, he also has delayed speech, the girls mother has told me that are children are not allowed any contact in school and out what can i do as i do explain that it is wrong and not nice and i also do time outs please help.

I'm glad to see that other moms are having the same problems with biting, hitting and throwing things. i felt so alone, but now i know it's normal. i can't wait until she grows out of this!

I'm a mom to a three year old who bites other kids in school , i have been trying to correct his behavior however a parent has been coming up to me being very threating . she even told her five year old to punch my three year old . i don't condemn my sons behavior however this parent is taking things to far how can i deal with this in a positive way .

Thanks for this article. will try it at home. never had problems with my daughter hitting and throwing things until a few months after starting nursery. i didn't know how to tell her not to do those things she some of her schoolmates do without labelling them as bad or undisciplined. :-0 ... hope this works.

My 3 year old he goes to preschool, he hits other kids, he wont do the activities from school he bite his fingers and pick his nose, but he loves school ? should i take him out from school?

My son is now 3 years everyday when i collect him at school i always get a report that he bites others, at home i do hit him when he does that, i really don't kbow what to do now.

I'm a 2 yr old teacher and i'm glad to see this article. i often have to let parents know that this is 2yr old behaviors. i agree that these situations have to be met head on but not with frustration we must model good behavior and help 2 yr olds understand their emotions and work through this! great job on the article! i have 12 2yr olds in my class and trust me everyone of them are exhibiting forms of these behaviors. you just have to relax and realize it is temporary and they will get through it if you use positive behavior approaches!!

Thank goodness i have found something that is not only rational but makes sense. i have twins a boy and a girl. my daughter is very calm but takes a beating from her brother, however, my daughter throws tantrums like no one's business. my son bites - hits - pushes and pulls her hair. he lashes out at me as well. i have been very concerned about this for what seems to be forever. they are both 2 years old and at times - i feel very beside myself. i'm glad i'm not the only one going through this and i am happy to know such articles are available. i'm still happy to follow up with our family doctor and still open to any workshops and other online correspondence available.

Yes, i would def. ask the daycare provider what happened to your little girl! i used to work at an in home daycare and as a parent, you have every right to know of any negative behavior going on that has an impact on your child. ask, and show the mark on your daughter and explain that you should've been told about it and you will not tolerate your child being mistreated or bullied, or worse, ignored by the caretaker!

My daughter is almost 2 and goes to a dayhome. the lady that runs it takes good care of my daughter, my concern is that she ocassionally looks after this girl who is 2 mths older and she is a biter. i picked up my daughter one day after the biter was there and noticed later that night a bruise on my daughters back in the shape of a bite, should i approach the mother of the biter or do i just let it slide. it upsets me but i don't know if i need to make a big deal of this or not... btw this is not the first time she has been bit by this other girl.

I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter, who lately has been hitting me in the face, pinching me where ever she can, to even biting herself at times! i am at my wits end and dont know what to do anymore with her. the temper tantrums seem to be getting worse every day. i spoke to her pediatrition and she said that it was completely normal. i do not find this normal. i dont spank her, because i belive that will make her think that its ok to hit back. i do the time out thing by putting her in her room and tell her to come out when shes ready. sometimes it works, other times it doesnt. i need help!!! i mean desperatly!! i just dont know what to do anymore. any advice for me?? i open to anything, well almost anything!

My two year old has an obsession with sneaking out of the house in the morning before my husband and i have woken up its dangerous and scary we have bought chain locks for the doors and that worked however he recentley figured out how to open living room window and climb out i dont know what to do to stop him someone help !

My daughter is almost 4 yrs she hits herself when she is angry or can't get her way , what can i do to help my child? help

Question: my two year old son throws toys at other kids, adults, animals... kids he has just met and usually seems to do it when there back is turned. i've tried spanking, timeouts etc... i don't know anyone who has dealt with this exact problem and can't seem to find any resources online. any insight from anyone? please and thanks

I have found a big part of this phase can be trying to please others, or making the other parent feel better about what has occured. but ultimatley all you can do is try to teach your child right from wrong. and try not to worry about being judged.

i had two really awkward incidences within a week which involved my son hitting and scratching much older kids. my son is two and highly energetic and full of fun, but i have to monitor his behaviour in social situations especially where tensions are running high in case he lashes out. often these incidences are unprovoked 'attacks' and the parents of these kids got really angry with me and i could sense that they blamed me for my child's behaviour. i reprimand my son every time and he is told no in no uncertain terms, but other parents seem to want you do do more.if, as you say, all toddlers exhibit this behaviour at some point how come they appear non-sympathetic? how do you deal with the parents of the child who has been hit when they are fiercely protective? as it seems that no amount of apologising seems to work!

My son is alomst 2, and has been hitting other kids and myself for almost a year! i was worried that it was some thing more than a phase. we have been trying alot of things over this past year, but i think we need to be more consistent and allow time for things to work befor assuming they are not working.

My son is 21 months and he likes to throw his sippy cup full.. now i kno its normal.. he is just curious. thanks

My daughter is 22 months old. she is mommy's little girl. everything revolves around mommy and that is ok. that is her way of showing that she loves, trusts, and depends on me. but she is constantly biting and attacking my niece when she has something that she wants right then and there. she will hit me in the face with her fists. she bites and pinches me. and yes, there is that constant "no". i do spankings, and time outs, and firm speaking... none of it seems to work... how can i get these methods to work when her grandparents that watch her every day while i am at work don't dicipline her??

Good day. i thought that my daughter's behaviour is not normal anymore. lately it seems that she acts differently everytime she want's something we have to give it to her right away or else she will get mad. thank you you for sharing now i know that it's normal.

My wife and i are going though the big d. and my sons been acting and this puts a little bit of light on subject of what to do thanks

So glad i came across this article. i was starting to think something may be wrong with my daughter but i know i'm not alone now. lol she is only 14 months but has been walking since 10 months and is already talking. she throws fits so bad in public, throws herself down on sidewalks, bites me, screams uncontrollably, and is already saying no to certain things. i put her in her crib for time-outs but it hasn't helped yet, just makes her more mad so i'm going to try the other methods listed here. thanks

Wow. i'm so glad to have read this article. i was beginning to think i was doing something wrong and spoiling my little one. thank you for teaching me more effective ways to deal with my baby. patience and perseverance to all the parents who are going through the same thing.

I really much appreciated your kind of words, i did experienced by myself with my elder son, now he is coming to 3 years old, and in many cases no means something to him, he is not satisfied, he needs something else, if the mother is not paitent he will start throw temper to his younger brother, and that it is really the worth. being paitent and understanding for what toddlers really needs it helps a lot and your words does.

My son is about to turn 2 and he is also about to get kicked out of day care! i have to sign a paper for him almost everyday. he doesn't really hit on his playmates it's the teacher that he hits and throws things at. i'll try to use your methods but he doesn't really do it at home and i don't know how to correct something that he doesn't do at home.

My daughter had about a week or so that she went thru the "biting phase", boy am i glad that didn't last long. however, she is constantly telling me "no". it seems like no matter what i do/say she will not let up. i will try the above tips and hopefully that will help me. one day, this too shall pass! :)