Sharing the News That You're Pregnant!by Katlyn Joy | September 6, 2010 12:00 AM
So you've gotten the confirmation; you are indeed expecting a new baby. Now when and how to tell everyone else? Everyone has different ideas about timing. Some prefer to wait until the critical first trimester passes, and the risk of miscarriage has diminished. Others don't want to wait another minute to share the happy news. There are pluses and minuses to both plans, so it really comes down to what you feel most comfortable doing.
The how of telling is also a very personal choice. Some opt for fun or whimsical announcements while others like a more quiet or reserved celebration of the upcoming event.
For those who want to tell everyone at once, a big fun party can work. If a holiday is around the corner, plan a special gathering and work your special announcement into the celebration. For instance if it's Halloween you could dress up as a big pregnant woman—with a fluffy pillow belly or your husband could dress up as a baby and put the big announcement in treat bags. Or if it is Thanksgiving, before the meal have everyone go around the table and tell what they are thankful for and when it is your turn, give the happy news.
Another idea is to have an impromptu get-together, maybe a potluck or cook out. Have your partner take group photos, telling everyone to "Say cheese!" except on the last picture, he will shout, "Say ____'s pregnant!" You'll get some great candid reaction photos.
For a smaller gathering of relatives, consider getting a cake decorated with the happy news and a stork design. Or write "Congratulations Grandma and Grandpa!" or "Congratulations Aunt Becky and Uncle Josh!"
For your parents you may want to give them a special gift, such as a silver rattle or a nice frame especially made for grandparents, with an ultrasound photo enclosed. A special memory book for grandparents to fill out for the new little one is also a nice way to spread the news and create a keepsake at the same time.
If your family and friends live far away, consider a special email announcement, perhaps with an ultrasound pic or a note written from your unborn child with an invitation to the Birth-Day party on your due date.
If you already have children, let them in on the happy news first and perhaps let them help to spread the word. During an outing to grandma and grandpa's have the kids wear an I'm the Big Brother or Sister t-shirt. Wait for the confused and then excited expressions on your parents' faces.
If you can, take a pic of the positive pregnancy test with your camera phone and send out a photo message to your loved ones and wait for the phone to light up with calls.
Piggyback lyrics telling your happy news onto a familiar children's song or hit song and have your children or partner sing it on video then send it out to your unsuspecting friends and family.
Use photo editing software, put your face on the body of a very pregnant woman and send out the email to your relatives and friends. Alternately, put your husband's face on a baby body.
There are a few considerations to keep in mind when making your announcement. The first is with any loved ones who are struggling with infertility or miscarriage, or the loss of a child. Perhaps involve them privately in sharing the news in a sensitive way. Do not leave them out simply because you are unsure how to tell them, though. That would sting even more.
The other consideration is in when and how to let coworkers and your boss know the big baby news. This really depends on where you work, how the work relationships are, and your plans for working through and after the pregnancy. Think about how the news will spread from those in the know to those at work, and be ready.
However you decide to share the joyous announcement, enjoy it! Remember and if possible record it for your little one to hear about later. Keep photos and mementos to stash in baby's memory book.Katlyn Joy is a freelance writer with a Master of Arts in Creative Writing. She is mom to seven children, and lives in Denver, Colorado.
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