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Baby Shower Etiquette: Invitations

Alison Wood |22, August 2013


So you want to throw your girlfriend a baby shower? Great idea! She will remember your kindness--forever! No one forgets the people that made life events memorable. You still remember who went with you to pick out your wedding dress, right? You still remember who gave you the most awesome graduation present, right? So, definitely your best girlfriend is going to remember the ultimate baby bash you threw her for her expected bambino. So, where do you get started?

One important aspect of a baby shower is the guests. Yep, there has to be people! In order for people to know about the shower, you have to invite them. In order to invite them, you have to know what you're going to do at the shower, etc. So, here's a quick run-down plan to get you organized so you can get the word out about the ultimate baby shower!

Pick a theme.
Do you want to do a girl or boy theme or keep it gender-neutral? Your best bet? Ask the guest of honor. Try to match her nursery theme to the theme of the shower. Or, you could match the meaning of the baby's name. Once, you come up with a theme, go to the next step.

Pick a number.
There has to be a cut-off number for this baby shower. You cannot invite the entire neighborhood! Set the number at 10-20 guests and include family, friends and acquaintances. Double check the list twice with the guest of honor before sending invites!

Pick a date.
The end of the month is typically a financially tight time. It may be in everyone's best interest to plan it around the end of the first week or the beginning of the second. Weekend showers have been a popular tradition, but more and more people are seeing that they get a better turn-out if they plan a baby shower on a week day night. People are finicky about interruptions during their weekend, so kind of feel this out with the family members and guest of honor.

Pick a time.
Try to make the schedule as convenient as possible. If you do choose the weekend, choose a mid-afternoon, so everyone that enjoys sleeping in and early morning yard work has time to get that in as well!

Pick out a menu.
Are you going to have a few finger sandwiches and punch, or are you going all out for your bestie with finger foods, fancy desserts, a shower cake, and party favors? Refrain from asking guests to bring food---after all you are the one that invited them! Asking guests to bring food items is definitely not proper etiquette.

Pick the activities.
Do you want to play games to get everyone at ease and comfortable? Mention the activities on the invitations to spark people's interests. If you think parenting advice would be helpful, ask each parent that is invited to think of the best parenting advice they have ever received. Sharing this advice with a mom-to-be is extremely helpful and thoughtful! Don't procrastinate with the planning process. Begin planning all the festivities now so you won't be stressed when the celebration arrives. A stressed hostess always dampens a party!

Pick a method.
Do you want to do snail mail or email? Snail mail is received better since it involves thought and time. Your guest also has a small tangible reminder of the special day that she can just tack up on the fridge. Email is convenient, but many times people would much rather receive a cute invite in the mail. Check with your guest of honor and ask her if she has any certain desires in this area.

After you get all the above steps checked off your "to-do" list, design an email invitation and click send, or purchase some adorable invitations and lick, seal, stamp and send! With thought, love and creativity, you are for sure going to create a baby shower your friend will never forget! Happy planning and celebrating!

Alison Wood is a stay-at-home mom of six and freelance writer and blogger. She enjoys raising her six children and desires to share her experiences to help other mothers.

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