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Pregnancy After A Loss

Allison Hutton


When my husband and I decided to try and become pregnant, it was an exciting and confusing time. I couldn't help but wonder if we were really ready to make the big step from just the two of us to becoming parents. But, the time was right, and we were ready to begin our journey. After 6 months of trying, we received the good news. In March of 1997, we were told a little one was on the way. Within one week of the news, I miscarried. We were devastated. The doctors told us that it was "common." I asked if there was testing which could be done, only to be told that "one miscarriage doesn't constitute the need for tests."

We heard such things as "Don't worry, you'll have another one." "It's probably for the best...there must have been something wrong with it." "At least it happened early, it wasn't a real baby yet." These comments did little to console us. I felt that I lost a baby, no matter how early in the pregnancy it was. I found a helpful "fact sheet" on the internet, dealing with miscarriage.

Much to our surprise, I immediately became pregnant again. Although we were afraid, and cautious, we were happy with the news. However, again at 5 1/2 weeks, the pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Again, I begged for testing. I was told that I would "need to have at least one more miscarriage" before testing became a possibility. My husband and I were devastated.

I hopped from doctor to doctor, only to hear the same words over and over again. Miscarriages are "common." I was told not to worry, not to get "discouraged." I was told to "go ahead and try couldn't hurt."

I became pregnant for the third time, in October of 1997. Sadly, that pregnancy also ended in miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks. At that time, I was labeled a "habitual aborter." I became depressed, thinking that I would never have a child of my own. That I would never experience pregnancy first hand. At this time, I went to yet another doctor, who was determined to help in some way. She scheduled a "Hysterosalpingogram" (HSG). It was a very frightening name, for a very uncomfortable procedure. I began to do research in the internet, to better understand what was going to happen.

The procedure revealed that everything was fine. She thought that progesterone therapy may help, and we tried that. I became pregnant for the fourth time, and using progesterone, I again had another miscarriage at 5 1/2  weeks. My doctor was at a loss, as to where to go next. No one could explain to me why I was having recurrent miscarriages. My doctor then referred me to a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE), in Hershey, Pennsylvania.

After reviewing my medical history, the RE immediately suggested Heparin Therapy. This would mean giving myself shots three times daily, beginning at ovulation, and ending six weeks after the baby was born. That is, if the therapy worked.

My husband and I decided to go ahead, and give the therapy a try. The first month, I became pregnant. We literally held our breath for the first 5 1/2 weeks. Then, we waited to see a heartbeat. Next, we waited for the first trimester to be over. The pregnancy was filled with "milestones." The pregnancy moved by so quickly, without complication. And, on March 17, 1999, our baby daughter Hannah was born.

It was a long, painful, heart-breaking journey. But, I would go through it again, just to feel the joy of finally becoming a mother. It can be very frustrating to deal with physicians who treat you like a number, rather than as a person with questions, feelings, and confusion.

If you feel that you are not getting the care you deserve, do not hesitate to seek out a doctor who is willing to invest the time it takes to solve the problem. They ARE out there, you just need to find them.

Allison is a contributing editor for The Baby Corner as well Editor of Pregnancy after Miscarriage at Suite 101.

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