Pregnant With Baby #2Allison Hutton
I find it amazing at just how different this pregnancy is from my first; right down to how easily I cry. This pregnancy is moving at the speed of light, and I don't know where the time is going. I suppose I have no real advice for anyone expecting their 2nd child, as I am only nearing the end of the first trimester, myself. However, I am hoping that I can shed some light as to what you may be expecting, when you are expecting #2.
With Hannah (#1), we had gone through years of testing and miscarriages before she was born. We were "actively" trying to get pregnant. Although we weren't overly surprised when the test came out positive, we were thrilled. Hugs and kisses were abundant that day. My husband pampered me like you wouldn't believe. "Honey, you need to rest. Put your feet up while I fix you lunch." Every twinge or odd feeling was cause for his alarm, and demands that I immediately rest. I would stay up until all hours, and eat. The pizza man and I became close. We had a "plan" for everything. My husband was in awe of me. After all, I was carrying his first-born. I was woman! For those of you who are pregnant with your first, and understand all that I have just shared, I have one piece of advice for you. Milk it for all it's worth. Let your partner wait on you—rest when you can—and enjoy the pampering. Chances are, you won't get it the 2nd time around.
With this pregnancy, we were not trying. I can't say that we were the poster people for birth control, but we weren't going all out to get pregnant, either. When the test came out positive, my husband and I carefully scrutinized the test under natural light, and conceded that it was, indeed, positive. I went into the living room and he went upstairs. We were not prepared at all. My daughter, now almost 15 months, has no idea what is in store. We tell her she is going to be "the big sister," and all we get in return is a squeal in response to something happening on "Bear In The Big Blue House." I move furniture. I am lucky if I eat 3 meals a day. My husband does not rush out at midnight for my apple pie craving, because I haven't seen midnight in a year. I like to sleep now. I can easily go to bed at 8:30-9:00. My boobs look like a couple of oranges in Christmas stockings—and I imagine they will head south even further, after breastfeeding another baby. When family and friends see me, they don't have that "look" that you get when you are pregnant for the first time. You know, the one where people tilt their heads sideways, smile, and "ooo" and "ahhh" at how beautiful your "glow" is. The only thing glowing on me now is the reflection of the sun off of my pimples. The look I get now is "What are you going to do with TWO under the age of 2?"
But, this is all okay. It's different, but okay. Actually, it may not be all that different, maybe I am the one who is different. I know what to expect now. I know that I will get stretch marks, and have trouble shaving my legs. I know what to expect in labor and delivery, and no longer rely on episodes of "A Baby Story" to give me that information (although I still watch it often!). I am a cagey vet at this whole pregnancy and childbirth thing. It truly is a wonderful experience, becoming a mother. But once you lose the nervousness of the "first time," you can't get it back. So, if this is your first time, enjoy every minute. Spend time with yourself, alone, and thinking about what will be. It's hard to focus on your 2nd (or more) pregnancy; and to give it undivided attention. After all, when you have a little one running around with a slobbered-up remote in one hand and a mitt full of cat hair in the other, pregnancy is the last thing on your mind. This will probably be our last child, so I am trying to enjoy it; to focus on it as much as I can - but is a difficult task. I only hope that you can either appreciate or relate to what I've said, and make all attempts to enjoy your pregnancy (and all to come) to the last minute.
My name is Allison Hutton. I was recently introduced to the Baby Corner by Elizabeth Geiger, and have found it to be a wonderful resource for those trying to conceive, those who are expecting, and those who are already parents. I am a stay at home Mom to my beautiful daughter, Hannah, and wife to my wonderful husband, Daniel. After a long journey battling recurrent pregnancy loss, we welcomed our daughter into the world on St. Patrick's Day, 1999. Motherhood has been the most challenging, exhausting, and rewarding job I have ever had! In my "spare" time, I enjoy freelance writing about issues dealing with pregnancy, parenting, infertility, and women's health. I hope to provide some insight to pregnancy, as well as information that can be difficult to find on the web. I look forward to becoming a part of the Baby Corner, and hope to make a difference, no matter how small.Allison is a contributing editor for The Baby Corner as well Editor of Pregnancy after Miscarriage at Suite 101.
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