Responding to Your Baby's Cluesby Tammy Frissell-Deppe |
You need to respond to your child's every need, whether it is a diaper change, hunger, or just the desire to be picked up and loved. A child cries to fulfill a need, not to "control" or "manipulate" a parent. Our society seems to feel that responding to a child's every need fosters a "spoiled" and dependent child.
Many recent studies indicate that responding to your baby teaches him that his every need will be met and therefore makes him secure and independent. By responding to your child's needs, you are in turn teaching your child to love, nurture, trust and be sensitive to the emotions of others.
A baby doesn't cry without reason. Most of the time, the baby just needs to eat, be changed, or just held and loved. You may also find that your baby may just want to latch on and nurse for comfort. Many times in the early months, a baby may cry due to colic. Sometimes, in severe cases, no matter what you do, there is no consoling her for a period of time. However, this doesn't mean to shove her in a swing or in a crib. The best place for that baby to be is in a parent's loving, caring, and understanding arms.
There is no such thing as spoiling a baby with too much love and attention. If you answer your baby's cries and needs, your baby will start to foster the utmost trust and respect for you that will last a lifetime. You child will learn that you love her unconditionally and that she can depend on you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It is natural to pick your baby up when she cries. Don't you like to be comforted and feel loved when you aren't feeling 100%?
The information contained in this article was taken from Tammy Frissell-Deppe''s book entitled, "Every Parent's Guide to Attachment Parenting: Getting back to basic instincts!"
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Tammy Frissell-Deppe is a fourth generation attachment parent and has two children with her husband William. Tammy is a Medical Information Specialist as well as an attachment parenting expert and she tours the country speaking and educating parents and parents-to-be on the different aspects and benefits of attachment parenting. Tammy's articles have appeared in many different newsletters and journals and she continues to help and support hundreds of attachment parents weekly.Be the first to add your comment, or ask a question.
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