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pregnancy with new partner after divorce.. how to tell previous children?

pregnancy with new partner after divorce.. how to tell previous children?

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  • bnc1092 04-27-12 | 11:13 PM
  • My boyfriend and I of 2 years found out in Feb that we are having a baby! The only problem we are currently facing is how to tell his children. He has 3 children from a previous marriage, 8,10 and 12, and we were wondering the best way to break the news to them. I hear its a common fear the children will feel as if hes replacing them.. help!!
  • Dopey406 Dopey406's Avatar 04-28-12 | 10:48 AM
  • I've never been in your position but I wanted to welcome you to The Baby Corner, congratulate you on your pregnancy, and wish you luck. I would imagine that if you're loving in your approach with them, excited for what this will mean for THEM, and include them in all aspects of the pregnancy and preparation for Baby's arrival, they'll be accepting and excited, too. They're at ages that they can understand that he's not having a baby to replace them so I would think it would go pretty well.


     
    and Congratulations!
  • MrsS1stbaby MrsS1stbaby's Avatar 04-28-12 | 11:18 PM
  • Welcome to TBC and congrats! I also have never been in your position, but wanted to say that my brother-in-law recently had a baby with his girlfriend and his 9 yr old son from his previous marriage was SO excited to have a little brother and still thinks he is the coolest lil thing, even with all the crying, lol!
  • Elizabeth Elizabeth's Avatar 04-30-12 | 10:52 AM
  • Congratulations! And welcome to TBC!! As long as you explain to them that they are not being replaced, and will not be loved any less, they will be fine. Spend one-on-one time with each of them and praise them OFTEN.

    You should approach them with a happy excited attitude not even expecting them to be upset. Don't be apprehensive. If they do get upset, then ask them why, and try to alleviate concerns as they come up. If things get out of hand, end the conversation, and try again a another day, giving them some time to think.

    Let us know how it goes! Good luck!
  • SoccerPlayerMom 07-19-12 | 04:42 PM
  • Kids really respond to your clues so if you are nervous about telling, they'll pick on that. If you give it as good news, or no big deal, that's how they'll react.
    I was nervous about telling my teenage stepdaghter but my husband just blurted it out and it was over with
     

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