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What Are First Time Moms Most Scared Of?

Alison Wood |13, November 2012


Becoming a mommy can be an intimidating experience. Once the two pink lines move across the pregnancy test screen, many women become frightened at the unknowns of the future. Here is a list of questions and answers to put your mind at ease concerning the new adventure of motherhood.

Will I make it through labor?

Many first-time expecting mothers are frightened by the dramatic, screaming women in labor in the movies and TV shows. Yes, labor is painful, but you can get through it. Create a labor and birth plan before the big day arrives. Are you going without pain medication? If so, have some back-up strategies to deal with the pain. Massage, warm showers, breathing techniques, soft music, walking, rocking and other methods help in pain management. Do you plan on using pain medication during labor? Decide which medication you want to receive before you enter the labor room. Weigh the pros and cons of the pain management medications available before making your final choice. Check with your OB to see what he or she recommends.

Will I love my baby?

Sometimes it's hard to imagine giving unconditional love to a baby that's still inside your womb. But it happens almost immediately. When the baby is placed within your arms, and you finally look into the eyes of this new life, the bonding begins. Your new bundle already knows your smell and your voice. Automatically and naturally he is connected to you. You are the one that brings the most comfort to his new journey called life. This fact in itself is a major part of your choice to love your baby. Yes, you will love him, and yes, he will love you. It will be an indescribable bond between mother and child.

Will I know how to take care of my baby?

Dogs, cats and all animals instinctively know how to care for their offspring. Undoubtedly, you will too. Babies' most immediate needs are nourishment, clean diapers and cuddles. You, as the mother, will be able to fill these needs. There are already experienced moms in your life that will be more than happy to impart their knowledge of baby care to you. Should you breastfeed or bottle feed? Should you put your baby on a schedule? When should you begin feeding solids? They can let you know the decisions they have made and the positive and negative outcomes of those decisions. You can also sign up for childbirth classes that prepare you not only for childbirth but also for baby care -- like bathing, diapering, cord care, etc. Lots of great advice is out there, so don't worry, you can do this!

Will I be able to breastfeed?

This can be an overwhelming thought for most new mothers -- being the main source of nutrition for their infant. Not only that, but just how do you actually breastfeed? Thankfully, there are breastfeeding classes available to help conquer your insecurities about nursing an infant. Also, many hospitals employ medical personnel to exclusively work with and help new mothers with breastfeeding. They are there to make sure your little one latches on correctly, that he is sucking and swallowing, that you know the different nursing positions, and that you know how to tell if your baby is getting enough milk. Help centers are also set up to answer nursing questions. One group to contact for breastfeeding difficulties is the La Leche League. Don't give up in the beginning. There is a lot of support out there.

Some women may develop mastitis or thrush while breastfeeding. There are also helpful solutions to those problems as well -- one is to NOT quit breastfeeding. Stopping nursing while dealing with these painful situations is the worse thing to do. Talk to your OB about the best treatments available for these conditions. Also, rest assured that breast size will not inhibit you from being able to breastfeed. Women of all sizes are quite capable of breastfeeding. However, there are some women who should not breast feed. Mothers infected with HIV, who use illicit drugs or are on certain medications that cross into the breast milk should refrain from breastfeeding for the health and safety of the baby.

Bringing a new life into this world is a major event. Plan and prepare for the stages of mommyhood. Go with your motherly instincts and remember this is a learning experience as well as a bonding experience it. Enjoy these days and enjoy your bundle!

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