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Bonding with Baby, During Pregnancy

Elizabeth Keefe


By nature, mothers are nurturers. From the moment of conception, a mother's love will greatly influence her baby's journey through life. As babies are conceived out of love, they need to be cared for and loved. Bonding with your baby doesn't have to wait until birth. Mothers can bond with their baby throughout their pregnancy.

Babies need to have their most basic needs met. From their mothers' body they receive the nourishment needed to grow and thrive outside the womb. Mothers must establish a healthy pregnancy lifestyle to make sure their baby is getting all he needs to be healthy at birth. This means having routine prenatal visits to your doctor or midwife, eating a healthy diet, and establishing a routine exercise program.

Mothers can connect with their unborn baby through touch and relaxation. When a woman massages her belly using both hands, hormones are released which relax the uterus. This in turn calms and relaxes the baby. This is one of the examples of baby "knows" how you are feeling. Try to be relaxed during pregnancy. Take time to pamper yourself. This will let your baby know that everything is alright, and that he is safe and secure.

Women tend to daydream about their babies during pregnancy. I like to call it meditation for connecting with baby. While sitting peacefully, and daydreaming about her baby, a woman almost creates a telepathic connection. This is how I felt while pregnant with my first daughter. We were making a mother-child bond. I would concentrate really hard on my baby. I would try to image her inside me; what she was doing, what she was thinking. She would then reward me with a kick, or a squirm to let me know she was alright. I can't think of a more nurturing way to connect than through meditating or daydreaming.

Mothers can also connect with their baby through music. Babies like the rhythmic sounds of music, (like a heartbeat, or breathing), as it is very calming. If you put a tape player with headphones on your belly while lying down, and play a lullaby or classical music, most babies, in the third trimester, will respond by kicking or moving. A baby will also respond to his mother's voice, whether you are humming or singing, your baby can hear you and knows you are with him.

Mothers and Fathers can both bond with their baby by nurturing their own relationship. After all, the baby was conceived out of love, and needs to feel that love throughout pregnancy and life. Continue dating your partner throughout pregnancy. Laugh with each other and don't be afraid to make love. Most women are able to have sexual relations throughout pregnancy, but check with your doctor first to make sure you are not considered as having a "high risk" pregnancy. Nurturing your own relationship will ensure your baby will be born feeling loved and nurtured. The time you share together now will also help your relationship later when you face the many challenges as new parents. As a couple, you will enter into parenthood with open arms for your baby.

Elizabeth Geiger is the editor and founder of The Baby Corner website. She lives in New York With her husband Scott and two daughters, Cassi and Hannah.

Elizabeth Keefe is the editor and founder of The Baby Corner website. She lives in New York With her husband and two daughters.

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Damien Apr 28, 2010 09:25:45 AM ET

Hi Elizabeth, Your article has given me some comfort.My wife is expecting and is in her fourth month. Unfortunately within the last 18 months she has had two miscarriages and is finding it very hard to bond with this baby as she is afraid. As a result she is very upset that she feels like this and although she is keeping healthy with regular excercise she is not enjoying the pregnancy. Is there anything she can do? Your input would very helpful. Thank you.

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